Signed in as:
filler@godaddy.com
Nature of Addiction
Mike Hupfer introduces the nature of addiction. As part of Detox Sector, the nature of addiction provides information and resources for help overcoming addiction.
Presented below is some great information about the nature of addiction. Addictions come in all shapes and sizes. The information presented is recommended for everybody and may provide an illuminating window into our psyche.
The Family Playbook
Mike Hupfer presents the family playbook. As part of Detox Sector, the nature of addiction provides information and resources for help overcoming addiction. Try to picture the family playbook as an enormous instruction manual in many languages. It is so big, in fact, that it may symbolically break your back, if not handled properly. The Family Playbook is tacitly handed down to each, and every new generation. This instruction manual goes back many generations, probably to the genesis of your family. The Family Playbook may be viewed as rules of learned behavior that continuously gets recycled until someone decides they want to change, and break the cycle of generational complexities, like trauma, addictions, relationships, etc.
The Family Playbook effectively communicates without spoken language, or even words. The Family Playbook has a wide range of preaching’s, including information about attitudes, beliefs, standard operations, applications, techniques, biases, a how to guide, relationships, health, wellness, coping, drinking, eating, smoking, religion, marriage, job, career, prejudices, emotions, and just about everything else. The Family Playbook is titanic in scope. The information contained in the Family Playbook may or may not be relevant to you, or may fall somewhere in the continuum of relevance to you.
Take time to review the Family Playbook. It’s completely in your control to make changes to it. With the Family Playbook, you have the power to update it, amend it, delete it entirely, and keep it as is, or start anew. You may create your very own version of the Family Playbook. If no review of the Family Playbook takes place, we will probably follow the established Family Playbook, as is, for better, or for worse.
Life's Piggy Bank
Mike Hupfer presents life's piggy bank. As part of Detox Sector, the nature of addiction provides information and resources for help overcoming addiction. From time to time, memories of my high-school days, come trickling back into my conscious mind. Truth be told, I learned more about getting high at lunch than much of anything else really. Of course, that is on me. For the life of me though, I can’t think of a single time, just once, where I used anything I learned in Geometry, or Algebra. I wish I would have learned more about social skills, and some basic finances information to apply to life after high-school.
My thoughts transition into a raging river, however, when I think about my college days. To follow in the footsteps of my Family Playbook, I went to school and it was years of learning random things. Truth be told, I can’t remember much of what I learned to this day. I wish I would have learned more about conflict resolution, and mechanisms of saving while working our whole dang life.
As far as attending college is concerned, I wish I could turn back the clock. I would have been far more selective in choosing my learning path, and better equipped to consider the cost versus the benefits. Like many people my age, I am saddled with education debt. Of course, that is on me, and a whole another story.
Today, it is far more likely that people in the workforce will change jobs, or occupations, much more frequently than the generations that came before. That is the case for me anyway. Most of have heard about, or are participating in, a work sponsored 401k. For us job changers, explore the IRA option too. A person can have both a 401k and an IRA. The IRA is your own thing; it follows you around, and not tied to any employer.
The Game of Blemish
Mike Hupfer presents the game of blemish. As part of Detox Sector, the nature of addiction provides information and resources for help overcoming addiction. Submitted by a friend who wishes to remain anonymous. This game happens all the time, so it's important to recognize it. Sometimes, people are reluctant to look in the mirror. It's easier to find a blemish in others.
"Have you heard about so and so, you wouldn't believe what I heard! How could anyone do such a thing!" Can you relate to that transaction? Gossip fuels rumors and although seemingly benign, gossip actually does much more harm than good.
For instance, when you put someone else down without realizing your own shortcomings, it is a social game known as "blemish" in transactional analysis. It allows someone to temporarily feel better about themselves, because instead of focusing on themselves, they find enjoyment by gossiping about other people.
If one would simply not engage with this type of game, they would then need to account for their own behavior, forcing that person to take a hard look at themselves instead.
Forgiveness
Mike Hupfer presents forgiveness. As part of Detox Sector, the nature of addiction provides information and resources for help overcoming addiction. Forgiving someone may be viewed as disentangling yourself from a strong emotional hold that binds you to them. By disentangling yourself, it can help set you free.
Let me give you an example. I’m sure you have heard someone say something like this before, “I’ll never forgive them for what they did. Not in a million years.”
Not forgiving this person doesn’t affect them in the least.
Why would it?
They didn’t care then.
Why would they care now?
By forgiving the person, you take back power by disentangling your emotions from them. It may feel counterintuitive but it works. If it helps, call it disentangling.
To conclude this section, let’s talk about something that sounds easy to do: saying you're sorry. In practice, however, you may find it more difficult than you think.
As human beings, we are going to mess up all the time. That’s just part of the deal. This is particularly true with the people we are close to.
For whatever reason, people don’t like to admit when they are wrong even if they are wrong. It probably has something to do with the ego as explained by psychoanalytic theories and other schools of thought.
Just think back to the last time you messed up with your loved one. Was your first thought to say I’m sorry? It wasn’t my first thought either.
I believe people want to justify why they do the things they do and then trap themselves by defending their justification.
For all of our faults, human beings are forgiving creatures. When the person who wronged us apologizes and asks for forgiveness, we typically do.